Checking in with your partners more regularly & intentionally may be one of the key ways to help you connect better & improve your relationship.

Maybe you don’t regularly check in with each other?

Maybe you just want to tell them where you’re at, without a “fix”?

Maybe there’s avoidance or fear of sharing difficult information?

Maybe you just didn’t think they’d want to know?

Maybe when you do check in, it just turns into an argument?

This tool here aims to circumvent all of the above. This MOT (check-in) helps make communication regular & consistent & is a whole new method of communicating that you may not be used to. This method encourages active listening, rather than immediately responding or becoming defensive. This method also prompts you to reflect on what you may want or need to share, that maybe you’ve not reflected on before. This MOT, being the way it is, creates a space where you can build trust & vulnerability over time. It’s here so you can stop avoiding certain topics or fearing a reactive response from bringing in things which you may not like to hear or say, because this space is made for managing difficult content, as well as all the ooey gooey wonderful things you want to share! This management looks like you having to prepare yourselves for this check in (through regulating tools on the PDF), and for the listener, this tool is here to practice listening & processing, without necessarily responding. With intention, you may want to discuss things further after a good nights sleep, which should hopefully enable the speaker to share openly in the moment. Better share in this contained space for optimum results & connection, than not at all!

(for my neurodivergent folk, or those who love to follow the rules - tailor this MOT to you! if you don’t follow the order or miss things out every now & then or end up arguing accidentally, that’s ok! keep practicing & amend it to your needs!)

download your relationship mot/check-in