qualifications

MA in Contemporary Relationship Studies - Relationship & Family Therapy

PgDip in Clinical Sexology - Psychosexual & Relationship Therapy

Level 4 Foundation Certificate in integrative Counselling & Psychotherapy

ACET Accredited Sex Educator

Cruse Bereavement Volunteer

Bima holding the camera with two hands, smiling towards it — who am i?

I am a **queer**, gnc, trans non binary, **passionate,** rainbow loving qualified Psychosexual and Relationship therapist; Family therapist; certified Sex Educator and a Masters graduate (Distinction) in Relationship Studies. **My pronouns are they/them**. I hold the necessary insurance to practice and follow the ethical guidelines of COSRT. I have had specific training for delivering online & telephone sessions. I take my continuous professional development seriously; I attend seminars and conferences regularly to keep my knowledge and practice updated.
As well as my relevant qualifications, of which I would highly recommend the Contemporary Institute of Clinical Sexology (CICS) for inspiring sex & relationship therapists, I also have a First Class BA degree in Italian. Whether it with languages or sex & relationships, I know & empathise with the complexity of languages and how difficult it can be to communicate with, understand, and be heard by others, especially when the majority of us were not taught how! Sex is sadly taboo, but I hope that with my sex positivity and my openness to diversity I will create a comfortable environment for you to tell me how you’re feeling and what you’re struggling with.
Neuroscience and how our brains work also fascinate me; it can tell us a lot about why we react and act in certain ways, simply because of our biology and how we are wired. I also love to focus on the raw emotions we have too that go beyond biology. It feels only right to be holistic in the way we analyse ourselves and if we can fully see and understand our whole selves, then we can do a much better job at helping and accepting our whole selves.
I have diagnosed **ADHD** and self and peer diagnosed **ASD.** Although I have lived experience of **neurodivergence** of myself and clients, I am not a neurodivergent specialist. As it is becoming clear, queerness and neurodivergence are sometimes connected. I do work with neurodivergent folk in therapy as I aim to be accessible to all, however, if this were to be the main focus on therapy I would not take you on, as I am mainly psychosexually and relationally trained. The same goes with people with severe **depression or anxiety**; working with low mental health is something I do daily, but there is a line I do not cross in terms of my trained experience and knowledge. If your mental health is feeling more prevalent than sex or relationships, I may suggest an alternative therapist for you.

Let’s work together!

As well as therapy, I am available to be booked for talks, consulting, panels, workshops, collaborations, you name it! All things sex and relationships. Email me to enquire.

Where I’ve been:

Featured in: Elle, HuffPost ⓵ ⓶, COSMO ⓵ ⓶ ⓷ ⓸, Stylist, GayTimes

MTV’s documentary : Amy Winehouse & Me - speaking with Dionne Bromfield & others about bereavement as a spokesperson for Cruse

My Coral : Talk Dirty To Me - online event with Zoe Kors, talking about sex and intimacy

Hanx & Leith : Let’s Open Up - in person panel talking about Vaginismus with Dr Sarah Welsh, Fran Bushe & Mari Wilson

Podcasts : Come Curious, Cliterally The Best, S3x Theory With Dee, WWR, Culturally Curious, Eyestorm Women’s Voices, Untold Pleasure: Cancer, Sex & Intimacy

my approach.

I work in a Integrative & Humanistic way, which means my approach within sex & relationship therapy is tailored to you. I assess your needs and work in a way that will help you best.

I urge you to bring all of you, beyond sex & relationships, as afterall, this is therapy.

The styles of therapy that I integrate in my work have been learned either in my Diploma, MA or via continuing professional development.

Unsure what this all means? I'm here to answer any questions you have

Approaches I use:

Psychosexual Therapy
Gestalt Therapy
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Human Givens Therapy
Somatic (no touch)

Couples Counselling
Mindfulness
Transactional Analysis
Solutions Focused Therapy
Systemic - Family Therapy
Rewind Trauma Therapy

Safe Space for Trans Folk
Safe Space for Sex Workers
Kink & fetish Aware
Registered Member of COSRT

sex education

Instagram - @loxleysexology

If you follow me or see me on Instagram, you are more than welcome to bring this up in session and how you feel about what information I put out into the world. I am human, I am a sex educator and I am an activist; my queer identity is political, but ultimately I am a therapist and I am always open to learning about your opinions and needs and how we can navigate the therapeutic space together.

Please see below for anatomy drawings i have made